When it’s him getting wet

28 Dicembre 2024

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When it’s him getting wet. The release of a semi-transparent liquid from the tip of the penis during arousal can sometimes lead to misunderstandings within a couple. For some, it may signal a problem; for others, it is seen as a sign of attraction to their partner. The root of this confusion often lies in a poor understanding of our reproductive systems.

LETTER

Hello, I’m 38 years old, and I have a question: my 29-year-old girlfriend was surprised that when I’m aroused, or during manual or oral stimulation of my penis by her, I do not release that transparent liquid which, according to her, should flow abundantly well before actual ejaculation. She claims that all her previous partners exhibited this effect and therefore believes that I am not sufficiently aroused by her presence or attracted to her – or, even worse, that I might have some kind of problem! She made me feel like an “oddity”! And She thinks this liquid serves the same function as vaginal fluid, while I say it does not. Thank you in advance if you can address my concern. Best regards.

When It’s Him Getting Wet
SEXUAL HEALTH EXPERT’S RESPONSE

Let’s start by clarifying some aspects of male sexual response physiology. During the arousal phase, but before ejaculation, two tiny glands located on either side of the urethra (Cowper’s glands), beneath the prostate, secrete a small amount of viscous, transparent fluid resembling egg white. This fluid travels through the urethra and appears at the tip of the penis, where it becomes visible. It may contain a small quantity of sperm, enough to potentially cause conception during intercourse, even if ejaculation does not occur inside the vagina.

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This is why, although the risk isn’t very high, relying on the withdrawal method as contraception is discouraged. The main function of this fluid is to neutralize the acidic environment of the urethra, allowing sperm better survival and mobility after ejaculation. It does not serve any lubricating purpose comparable to the vaginal secretions produced during arousal.

The quantity of this fluid produced is highly subjective and is not indicative of attraction to a particular partner. Furthermore, the observable amount does not always match the amount produced. The length and shape of the urethra can retain a significant portion of this fluid, altering how much is expelled.

Your “difference” is absolutely normal; I hope that, after reading my response, it will become normal for your girlfriend as well.